Mummy, Sisters, Aunties......
Pst Mrs Elizabeth Odion Fadiya gave me a counsel about marriage long before I got married and I have been holding on to It.
She said " If You have a Sweet and Fruitful union, never ever assume it's by your strength or wisdom. Give the credit to God instead. Never assume that you are doing something better than other women that are facing hell in their marriage. This singlar act will shield your marriage in so many ways.
Since I got married, you won't catch me dishing out advice to other women on submission except completely inspired by the Holyspirit.
I have realised that
1. Circumstances,Personality ,background etc differs. My experience is determined by the kind of man I am married to. It would be unfair to measure other men by one man. I should only Preach about Submission as God's Mouthpiece and not as a Superior being because submission is a journey, I am daily facing the test.
2. Women that are truly submitting to their husbands advice other women with the tone of compassion and not superiority. True Submission and Obedience is initially Painful. Unfortunately, very few Christian women are real with their struggles. Everyone wants to appear virtuous.
3. Marriage Counselling is beyond knowledge and experience. You have to be inspired by the holyspirt. There are General instructions by God and there are peculiar instructions specific to your marriage. I took a particular married Woman's advice concerning an issue but nothing changed until God ministered to me through an unmarried guy.
Also, Speaking of endurance and Submission, My Parents had this married neighbour whose husband was Practically useless. He cheats and beats her at will . Everyone advised her to keep praying and submit. Well, she obeyed but the tension in her marriage eventually killed her.
A Spirit filled counsellor would have foreseen her death and given her a different counsel such as Run FOR YOUR Life or Report To An Institution that can help.
Ma,
Don't ever feel that you are not doing enough because of someone's eloquence on How submissive she is. Ask her hubby, you might get a different answer if he is sincere.
Focus on Your own lane. Let God work in and Through You. He knows it all. Let that Pain Grow You. Maintain a Positive attitude no matter what and Pray for Him, The Moment You see yourself as a Victor and not a victim of marriage or hubby, some things would change. Infact, Ignore your husband's wrongs if they are not harmful. Choose to be happy and Live.
Also, Don't Forget that "it is God that will work in You/Him to will and to do His good pleasure." stop looking to yourself or one Perfect Church woman, Look to God and Obey His instructions. Obedience Produces change. Forget about what he is not doing right or what you know, embrace God's wisdom completely.
Submission is God's will, The Grace to submit is mightily at work in You. Look unto Jesus.
He loves You and delights in the Prosperity of Your union.
YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB, I CELEBRATE YOU.
Pst Mrs Elizabeth Odion Fadiya gave me a counsel about marriage long before I got married and I have been holding on to It.
She said " If You have a Sweet and Fruitful union, never ever assume it's by your strength or wisdom. Give the credit to God instead. Never assume that you are doing something better than other women that are facing hell in their marriage. This singlar act will shield your marriage in so many ways.
Since I got married, you won't catch me dishing out advice to other women on submission except completely inspired by the Holyspirit.
I have realised that
1. Circumstances,Personality ,background etc differs. My experience is determined by the kind of man I am married to. It would be unfair to measure other men by one man. I should only Preach about Submission as God's Mouthpiece and not as a Superior being because submission is a journey, I am daily facing the test.
2. Women that are truly submitting to their husbands advice other women with the tone of compassion and not superiority. True Submission and Obedience is initially Painful. Unfortunately, very few Christian women are real with their struggles. Everyone wants to appear virtuous.
3. Marriage Counselling is beyond knowledge and experience. You have to be inspired by the holyspirt. There are General instructions by God and there are peculiar instructions specific to your marriage. I took a particular married Woman's advice concerning an issue but nothing changed until God ministered to me through an unmarried guy.
Also, Speaking of endurance and Submission, My Parents had this married neighbour whose husband was Practically useless. He cheats and beats her at will . Everyone advised her to keep praying and submit. Well, she obeyed but the tension in her marriage eventually killed her.
A Spirit filled counsellor would have foreseen her death and given her a different counsel such as Run FOR YOUR Life or Report To An Institution that can help.
Ma,
Don't ever feel that you are not doing enough because of someone's eloquence on How submissive she is. Ask her hubby, you might get a different answer if he is sincere.
Focus on Your own lane. Let God work in and Through You. He knows it all. Let that Pain Grow You. Maintain a Positive attitude no matter what and Pray for Him, The Moment You see yourself as a Victor and not a victim of marriage or hubby, some things would change. Infact, Ignore your husband's wrongs if they are not harmful. Choose to be happy and Live.
Also, Don't Forget that "it is God that will work in You/Him to will and to do His good pleasure." stop looking to yourself or one Perfect Church woman, Look to God and Obey His instructions. Obedience Produces change. Forget about what he is not doing right or what you know, embrace God's wisdom completely.
Submission is God's will, The Grace to submit is mightily at work in You. Look unto Jesus.
He loves You and delights in the Prosperity of Your union.
YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB, I CELEBRATE YOU.
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